The other weekend, friends of ours were over for dinner. Over the course of the evening, Dave* mentioned that he had still not received a thank you note from his grandson and wife from their wedding in early fall last year. He remarked that he had seen them several times since the wedding and nothing was mentioned. But what bothered me most was when he said, “I wouldn’t have minded so much if it had only been $100, but the gift was $500.”
The first thing out of my mouth was, “It doesn’t matter what or how much the gift is, a thank you is always appreciated.” He went on to say that kids do things differently today, and I replied that good manners never go out of style; everyone likes to be recognized for their thoughtfulness.
Are you guilty of not saying thanks or writing a thank you note for the wedding gift you received? It may seem like an endless task but remember that people took the time to give you something and it should take you the same time to respond accordingly. In fact it will probably take you less time. There is nothing more appreciated than a lovely handwritten thank you note. Each wedding gift should be acknowledged with a written note within three months of receipt of the gift. When possible, it’s best to write the notes as soon as the gifts arrive. Write a note even if you have thanked the giver in person. A thank you attached to your favours or written notices in the paper do not replace an individualized written note.
Things to consider when writing your thank you cards:
- Personal stationery or even store-bought thank you cards are best, never emails.
- Creating a card with a photo from your wedding is a nice idea, but the timing is tricky. Arrange to have the cards made quickly, so that gifts given at the wedding or just after won’t be kept waiting.
- A thank you card should be sent to everyone who gives you an engagement, shower, or wedding gift, whether they attended the wedding or not and even if you have thanked them in person.
- Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.
- Both the bride and groom should sign the thank you note, so if possible, write the notes together.
- Make sure you make every message sincere and personal. You can include a little message about the gift you received and what you intend on doing with it.
Here are a couple of examples that you could use:
Dear Mia and Chad,
Thank you so much for your very generous wedding gift. As you know we’re saving for a down payment, and we so appreciate your support. It was great to see you at the wedding, and we hope you enjoyed yourselves!
Dear Aunt Beth,
Thank you very much for the lovely casserole dish! I will think of you every time we use it. We hope to have you over for dinner soon.
Are you still waiting to be thanked for a gift? Are you a bride wondering if it is necessary? Saying thank you to your loved ones and friends is of utmost importance. Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts on thank you cards/notes. Thank You!