Tell me – How are you going about choosing your bridal party?
Choosing your bridal party – You know all those lovely maids in a row – smiling for the camera, wearing matching dresses and bouquets? Do you see yourself surrounded by 6 or more, or just you and your best friend/sister? Before you think about asking (and I do seriously mean THINK BEFORE YOU ASK), make a list of the people most important to you that you would like to have with you on the journey to your wedding day.
Does that list include:
- your sister,
- your H2B’s sister,
- current best friend,
- child hood friend you still see on Facebook,
- a favourite cousin or two, former roommate,
- friend from work,
- a friend you were bridesmaid for,
- OH MY! I could still add a few more. How do I choose you ask?
Don’t sweat. I’m here to help you figure out what the right number of bridesmaids are for you and your wedding.
Before we delve into the whole – how many bridesmaids are too many? story, let’s look at some past wedding history. For many, many years most couples chose another couple to be their witnesses and given the title of Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honour. Other than royalty, who had scores of people in the bridal party and mostly on the bride’s side, the bridal party has been fairly limited.
However, as the population grew, people had more family and friends, travelling became easier, weddings got larger and so did wedding parties. And in some cases now, wedding size has diminished but wedding parties have not. The average number for bridesmaids is 5. The average wedding guest list is 100. Add your groomsmen in plus the bride and groom and your have 10% of your wedding is the bridal party. Another metric people use is 1 bridesmaid for every 50 guests.
The number of ladies you pick when choosing your bridal party is entirely up to you. But let’s take a moment and look at what those numbers can mean for you and your wedding day.
Large or small – choosing your bridal party – the pros and cons
– Dress Drama – The joy or not of many bridesmaids is finding a dress style that suits not only your theme but also the different body and personal types that each of your girls brings. If you’re open to the challenge of different colours and styles of bridesmaid’s dresses, then it will work. If not, it could be a nightmare and one you’ll want to avoid.
– Keeping everyone organized on the day-of could get a little crazy. Scheduling for hair & makeup, getting dressed, down the aisle, photos, you need to appoint someone to keep everyone in check.
How NOT to hurt anyone’s feelings
You’ve written down all the people that you would like to be in your wedding party. The number is a bit higher than you want. Now the problem – how do you reduce that to a manageable number and not hurt anyone’s feelings. I’m afraid you may not like my answer: there is no way. It’s a wedding and people’s expectations and excitement may cause them grief.
How you handle it though could make all the difference. Explain to those that didn’t make the ‘cut’ that you couldn’t afford or choose everyone but there is something you would like them to do as that is what they are good at.
It could be doing a:
- organize the bridal party to get down the aisle if there isn’t a planner,
- pin boutonnieres,
- they could sing or play an instrument – you get the idea.
And then remember to thank them either with a small gift and a shout out at the reception.
The bottom line here is that there is no right or wrong number of bridesmaids or for that matter bridal party that you should have. It’s entirely up to you and what you can afford and manage. There’s nothing to say you can’t have guys on your side and girls on his side. I’ve had more than one wedding where this was the case.
And there’s nothing wrong with having more on one side than the other. It’ll make for more interesting photos. Or you can opt to go with none as long as you have 2 witnesses to sign the license or register. It’s your wedding and your vision.
Choose people who will support you, make you comfortable and above all make you glad you have them by your side. But the main thing is to think it all through before you ask anyone.
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