Let’s face it: Weddings are expensive, and they take a lot of work to plan. Determining the right number of wedding guests to be on your list will be your biggest worry AND your toughest task. So when you think about it, why should you invite someone if they aren’t really all that important to you? I came up with a few people that you might want to really think hard about inviting…or not.
Bless their little souls. This is almost always a controversial topic. You either love ‘em or you don’t. And you have to invite all or none – not just certain ones. Decide up-front whether or not you want to invite kids (oh – and work out what age bracket that covers) to your celebration and let guests know ASAP so they have time to organise childcare.
Some might feel strongly and decide they don’t want to attend if their children can’t come along as well, in which case – so sorry, we’ll miss you! Once you’ve reached your decision, stay the course.
#2 Anyone you haven’t spoken to in years.
I know you had lots of friends during college/university days, but if you haven’t stayed in touch since you graduated, there’s no obligation to include them as your wedding guests. And that friend who’s really kind-of-not your friend – the one who follows you on Facebook or Instagram but that’s the extent of your relationship – no obligation there either.
#3 Relatives you haven’t seen in years
If you’re tight on space or trying desperately to stick to your budget, you’ll need to be firm here. Pressure from your parents or other close family members can influence you but sometimes you just need to say no.
Stick to the policy that if you haven’t seen them in years, you probably won’t offend them; and if you do – well – you haven’t seen them in years anyway right? Keeping a tight rein on your number of wedding guests can be a full time job.
#4 Your colleagues/parent’s friends
Just because you talk about your wedding plans in the office, it doesn’t mean you owe them an invite. If you’re close to them, include them. If not, don’t feel you’re under pressure to invite them.
Parent’s friends – Allow each set of parents a certain number (what your budget and space allow) of friends to invite and it really helps if you know them too.
#5 Plus-ones you’ve never met before
There’s a simple policy here if you’re limited for space: unless they’re a close friend or relative, no plus-one obligations here. Your best friend’s current fling: Obviously you love your best friend, but don’t feel obligated to give her/him a plus one unless things are serious between them.
When it comes to drawing up your wedding guest list, you’ll need to remember that your budget and venue are two important deciding factors on the size. If they both allow for more guests, feel free to invite anyone that you think deserves an invite. There may also be a few people who would not be able to attend at all, but would be very disappointed if they did not receive an invite. Use your best judgment when deciding who to cut and who to keep. If there seems to be too many people that you cannot remove from the list, consider having an intimate wedding ceremony and reception and host a larger party for everyone else at a later time.
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Nancy – Wedding Coach