Wedding stress or overwhelm or anxiety – whatever you want to call it, happens to the best of us.
And when you are a bride-to-be, wedding stress can come at you in various ways and times throughout your planning. It could be as simple as stalling putting your thoughts together by staring at Pinterest for days on end. Or it can go to the other extreme and you are seriously thinking of chucking it all and eloping.
The thing is you’re a busy person with a work life, a home life, just ‘life’ and now you’re planning for your wedding day that you want to be perfect. And why wouldn’t you? You’ve been picturing this day for some time now. But for some reason we don’t’ picture the journey to getting there.
Thus the wedding stress…….
So let’s take a moment and look at those stress points that may be existing right now in your life:
- You’re trying to do it all
- You are no longer enjoying the process
- You’re not feeling 100% health wise
- You and your fiancé aren’t seeing eye to eye
- You start to cry when someone asks: “How are your wedding plans?”
If you’re not having any of these feeling right now, there’s a good chance you will. And if you are already, then that’s fine. It’s ok. As they say ’Rome wasn’t built in a day’ and your wedding plans won’t either.
There are many, many details to take into consideration, and that whole process can be very intimidating and stressful.
So what can we do to eliminate or at the very least limit this wedding stress? Having worked with numerous brides at various stages of their wedding planning, I can offer you up a few suggestions that were helpful for them. To see some other tips I suggested, check out this previous blog Wedding Overwhelm: 3 Tips to Reduce it.
Now let’s look at 3 more:
1. Adjust your expectations
I think it is safe to say that a great many of us have Champagne tastes and Beer budgets. You can thank all the hype out there around having the ‘Perfect Wedding’ and everything you need to make it happen. But reality says ’it’s ain’t so’. That’s fine.
So how do we get what we want without breaking the bank?
First you really need to make that budget. Come on – just do it!!
Second, you need to do your research. That means checking out a number of vendors in each category of your wedding plans and get quotes. Make sure you ask the same questions, so you are comparing apples to apples. Ask about price, what’s included, any extra fees, what happens if ______ (fill in the blank).
You get the idea. Interview them to see if you connect with them. This is very important. Then base your final decision on what you discovered.
2. Reduce Wedding Stress – Ask for help
There’s nothing wrong with asking for help. It’s doesn’t mean you’re stupid or not strong. In fact, it’s the very opposite. A smart person knows when to ask to help. Let’s face it: unless you’re in the wedding planning business, this is your first (or even second) time doing this. You don’t know everything.
“But my friend just planned her wedding and she made it look so easy”. Good for her, I say. It’s doesn’t mean she didn’t struggle with her plans. But you are not her. Everyone does things differently and handles wedding stress differently as well.
I’ve been in the wedding industry for nearly 25 years. I ask for help all the time because I want my brides to benefit from my knowledge in the best possible way. The better I am, the more you will benefit from what I have to offer.
Your wedding is the same way. The more you know ways to do things efficiently, the better things will go for you. Enlist your fiancé, your family and friends and/or some professional advice.
Caution: Don’t OD on the help! It’s easier to keep it organized with less minions. Your goal is to reduce your stress level, not increase it!!
Remember to strive for the best wedding you can put on, not to be perfect.
3. Look after you
Raise your hand if you have trouble living a healthy lifestyle – eating regularly and healthy, exercising, getting enough sleep? Yah, me too!
We live busy lives and get caught up in the rush so to speak. And what happens when life becomes a bit too much? We get run down, tired, cranky, catch a cold – you get the picture. Stress does that to you. Wedding stress will amplify that as now you’ve added more to your daily load.
It’s important during this time to pay attention to the signs your body is telling you – frequent headaches, body soreness, tension, feelings of exhaustion. It’s time to slow down and calm down. Treat yourself to a spa day, reassess your schedule to include some free time. Nothing is worth risking your health – not even your wedding.
You certainly can’t avoid some stress, anxiety or overwhelm as you plan your wedding. But it’s important to you and those around you that you recognize when it is taking over your life. I encourage you to take these steps to help reduce it.
Do you have any questions or concerns in the planning of your wedding? I am here to help as I want you to have the best wedding ever.
If you’re having some trouble with your wedding planning or some anxious moments, now is the time to check out my great Get Wedding Ready Packages. There are 2 custom packages that you can choose from that will help put your plans in place. I’d love to work with you and join you in making your wedding dreams come true.